The most common source of joy is relations with other people, especially in friendship and love. Attachment is an emerging field growing as a critical response to psychology's exclusive focus on pathology and problems in life. Attachment begins to address the problem of everyday unhappiness by asking who is happy and why, counteracting by cultivating Relationship Happiness. Happiness is created by attention and organization of consciousness. This "flow" state is cultivated by attention to the skill-to-challenge ratio. The concept of Flow asserts, when skills match opportunities, adversity is transformed into challenge, enjoyment of the immediate experience is heightened- all resulting in improving the quality of life and everyday happiness. Adding Positive Eastern methods psychology is powerfully related to concentration training (see our web page Mindfulness & Meditation). We learn skills to direct our mind by steering it back to the intended object, reducing distractions and rather than partially focusing, we have the power to continuously focus on our goals. By staying completely and continuously, we calm our mental distractions, increasing organization of our mind, and make the mind serviceable to our needs. Positive psychotherapy fosters the needs so important to our psychological health. The needs of secure attachment, secure romantic attachment and intimacy, optimism, hope, and social well-being.

Eastern Psychotherapy is a stance that generates awakening wisdom, virtues, and character strengths. By providing a happiness formula, resulting in vital engagement of life, a fullness of participation, and culminates in a state of excellence. Much of our lives we are taught to perform in an episodic state, temporarily motivated, as opposed to having positive traits- a continuous way of being, a disposition. Positive Attachment (known as Secure Attachment) works to create this flow, an optimal positive trait, through planning and preparation to achieve self-acceptance, positive relationships with others, personal growth, purpose in life, a mastery of our environment, and autonomy and self-determination. The functions of happiness such as joy and play, love, satisfaction while doing nothing are strengthened. Skills such as eliciting positive life events, seeking pleasurable activities, and putting one's self into a good mood develop resilience for the things in life we don't have control over.

The ideal psychotherapist embraces the notion that his/her task is to facilitate the client's own natural tendencies for self-actualization and happiness. Please contact us for more information about Attachment.